I am often asked how I got started in coaching and how I personally transformed my own life from being a frumpy, depressed, stay-at-home mom to an international speaker, successful business coach and retreat facilitator who travels the world to exotic locations.
It’s a long story but I’ll try to keep it as brief as possible. Maybe something in my story will inspire you with your own journey.
Can one thought truly change your life?
Yes, yes it can and I am living proof. When I was a child, I imagined that I would grow up, live in a big beautiful house, have a wonderful and romantic husband, and a great career making all the money I wanted. My body would be perfect and my social life fun and exciting. I would be HAPPY!
Unfortunately, things didn’t quite turn out that way. I ended up getting married right out of university—putting my own dreams on hold—and soon discovered he was a gambling addict and control freak. For over 10 years, I barely survived.
Because of the gambling, I often had to take my kids to the food-bank and I can’t count the number of times we were literally hours away from being homeless. The stress of it all affected my health and I gained weight – a lot of weight. The entire relationship was toxic. He controlled my every move and constantly put me down. To say I was unhappy was an understatement. I was depressed, lonely, frustrated, and I felt isolated and stuck. My self-esteem was at an all time low and things seemed very hopeless.
Until one day it all changed for me. It was my birthday and I didn’t have a thing to celebrate. I woke up more depressed than ever. I just wanted to give up—to make it all stop.
But I had 2 small children and I needed to get up. At that moment, my clock radio came on with a song that changed my life. The song was “It’s My Life” by Bon Jovi. I had heard the song many times before, as I am sure you have. But at that exact moment something just made me stop and truly listen to the words—
“It’s my life it’s now or never, I ain’t going to live forever.”
It was like a bolt of lightning had hit me in the head.
Holy Cow! It’s MY LIFE!
Up until that moment I had been living my life according to everyone else’s plan and honestly it wasn’t working so well. Did I want to wake up and be living like this in 10 years? 5 Years? 1 Year? Tomorrow?
The answer was a resounding NO!
So I decided from that moment on it was my life and I would live it according to my plan.
I jumped up out of bed completely motivated to change my life. And I did.
I filed for divorce and paid for it myself. I got an amazing job and paid off all the debt. I even bought a house. I also lost over 50 lbs and ran the Honolulu marathon (having never run a step before in my life up until I started training for the marathon). I truly started to LIVE!
Then, because of my own transformation people started coming to me for help with their own lives. I began unofficially coaching which quickly snowballed into speaking. So I wrote a book – it seemed a logical thing to do. Once I published my book Your Life According to You!, I quit my full time job, got coach training and began my career as a coach and speaker.
I’ve had my own coaching business now for over ten years. I now help coaches build their own coaching practices. I’ve traveled to exotic locations helping others to transform their own lives. I am my own boss. I have someone to clean my house. I get massages and my hair and nails done regularly (one thing I used to dream about). My oldest son went to private school and is now at University and I home schooled my youngest for the most part.
I don’t tell you these things to brag, but to let you know that ANYTHING is possible.
By taking charge of my life, I 1000% turned it around and now I live it on my terms doing what I love and being who I am meant to be, all the while helping and serving others in the process. It still blows my mind. But if I can do it, so can you.
All it took was one thought to change my life.
What thought will change your life? Let me know in the comments below.