On being an alpha-woman


As a woman…as an alpha-woman, you put  pressure on yourself to be strong, bold and fearless.

To be audacious and committed to having a positive impact on the community around you. To being an example for other girls and women around the world. To doing twice as much as men simply because to do any less isn’t you and isn’t acceptable.

You have big goals and are constantly moving toward them, even when it all goes to shit. You are strong-willed and ambitious.

You care. Really care about the world and how you can improve it. You are strong for others when they can’t be. You don’t complain and take responsibility even when you shouldn’t. You get it done when no one else can.

But it’s hard…really hard. Because some days you do feel like giving up. Some days you are so tired you can barely move. Some days you just want someone else to carry the load for a while. Some days you cry when no one is watching.


But you can’t because here’s the thing…

The second you allow yourself to be vulnerable… the moment someone sees you cry… if you even drop the ball for a heart beat…

You’re done.

Someone is there to tear you down to pieces. To tell you that you never should have tried. To criticize and judge. Pat you on the back sympathetically and tell you, you look pretty. You’ve seen it. I’ve seen it. It sucks.

I’ve experienced it…probably you have too.

If you are a high-achieving, alpha woman, a powerful woman leader in your own way, you will understand what I mean.

That we intimidate others. That they don’t know how to handle us. That in order for others to feel better about themselves they must tear us down to their size.

People have told me that my confidence scares them. That my strength un-nerves them. That my fearlessness is intimidating.

So what. Get over it.

This is the world today.

The alpha-woman is the one who will save us all.

It’s true… we’re not always right. We make mistakes. We stay way longer than we should. We say what we shouldn’t. We hurt feelings without meaning to. We feel. We love. It’s messy. It’s complicated. It’s LIFE!

And we’re going squeeze every ounce of living out of it and continue to make an impact no matter what others think, say or do.

So what do we do when we need support?

We be there for each other: powerful women for powerful women.

To uplift, support and care for each other when we do have a bad day. To be vulnerable in a safe space. To borrow strength from each other when we need it. To celebrate each other and our successes, and our failures. To pick each other up and empower one another. To inspire, encourage and serve. To be kind.

And there it is. We are even stronger together. When you empower a woman, you empower a community.

Who can you empower and support today?

P.S. Here is a quick video to help inspire you today.

About the Author

Heather WIlsonHeather E. Wilson is the founder and CEO of The Canadian Coach, a directory and membership platform designed to unite, support and promote Canadian coaches. She's a successful business coach, speaker, author (Your Life According to You!), warrior, change-maker, risk-taker, and adventurer all rolled into one dynamic package.