No one can make you feel…

make you feel

Has anyone ever told you (or maybe you told someone) that it’s their job to “make you happy” or that you do in fact “make them happy“?

Or has anyone ever “made you angry or cry” or someone told you that what you did or said “made them angry“?

It happens all the time.

We feel that it’s other people making us happy, sad, angry, giving us the guilt trip, etc.

When in reality no one can ever make you feel ANYTHING!

That’s right; you heard me.

No one can make you cry. No one can make you happy. No one can make you sad. No one can make you feel better. No one can make you feel guilty…but you.

There is not a single person on this planet with the power to make you feel anything. It is physically impossible.

Unless someone has super powers and can actually go into your brain and manipulate your synaptic impulses, your feelings are your own baby.

People often think and say to those in their life that their actions and words are responsible for their feelings. When someone betrays or hurts you, you may think that it’s their behaviour that made you feel crappy.

But in reality it is your REACTION to the behaviour that created the feelings.

Yes, you and only you are responsible for your feelings. How you react to a situation, person or event in your life is what creates all your feelings. And guess what? You can choose how you react.

Have you ever noticed that on some days, things happen that would normally upset you yet somehow you simply manage to laugh them off and go about your day? But on other days the tiniest thing can “set you off”?

On the days you don’t react negatively, you are in more control of your feelings, on the bad days you are in reaction mode and not controlling your feelings.

This can go for the more positive emotions too. You choose whether to feel happy, joyful and content. It’s all up to you.

Bottomline is this…

“Only you determine what and how you feel; no one can make you feel anything so stop giving your power away and expecting them to.”

About the Author

Heather WIlsonHeather E. Wilson is the founder and CEO of The Canadian Coach, a directory and membership platform designed to unite, support and promote Canadian coaches. She's a successful business coach, speaker, author (Your Life According to You!), warrior, change-maker, risk-taker, and adventurer all rolled into one dynamic package.