Do you often wonder where people get their confidence from?
Some people exude confidence naturally, not because they are gifted, but because they grew up in an environment that reinforced a positive attitude in nurturing their skills and talents. In your formative years, it’s important to have positive and confident role models to look up to.
What is confidence?
Confidence is not something you can just pick-up in one go. It takes time to build self-confidence and it starts from you. Confidence is how you view yourself. It’s the assurance and the ability to trust yourself that you can do it. It is about believing in yourself in a positive regard. Confidence is how you build yourself, and you only lose confidence based on what you have experienced. For example, a person loses their confidence when someone makes fun of their hobbies or when they get rejected from a job offer.
How do you build your confidence?
1. Be your own cheerleader
If you don’t believe in yourself first, how do you expect other people to believe in you? Be proud of the things you have accomplished no matter how small or trivial it may seem. It’s important to recognize and acknowledge your skills and talents. Once you recognize what you are good at, what skills you excel in, affirm that with yourself. When you doubt yourself while doing a task, remind yourself that you can do it. Don’t let the whispers of doubt crumble you. You got here because you are good at what you are doing. Manifest that positive energy that you feel about yourself.
2. Be more active
You don’t need to go to the gym and do 200 push-ups, but if that works for you, then more power. It’s about finding an activity that keeps your body moving. It can be walking around your neighbourhood in-between lunch breaks, spending 2 hours at the gym, taking yoga classes, or joining a dance class. Just keep your body moving!
According to American Psychological Association, one theory is that physical activity triggers a release of dopamine and serotonin, which can improve mood. A quick boost of serotonin amplifies your confidence, therefore you feel good about yourself.
3. Accept your failures and shortcomings
Rejection is a tough pill to swallow, but it’s one way to build your character. Rejection doesn’t mean that you are not good, it just means that you are not the right person for that situation. In job interviews, when you don’t get the job, take that experience from the interview and assess what you can improve. It’s a way to improve yourself and find where you are most comfortable. When you try and you don’t succeed, don’t be discourage. Rejection and failure stings a bit more especially when you step out of your comfort zone, but that’s the thing, the more you do it, the more you develop how you present yourself.
4. Arrogance =/= Confidence
Do not mistake arrogance with confidence. Arrogance is an exaggerated sense of self-importance and bragging about achievements. Arrogant people seek the attention of others. Confidence speaks for itself.
5. Hire a coach
If one of your goals is to improve on your self-confidence, why not hire a professional to keep you on track? Hiring a coach will help you step out of your comfort zone. They will be your mentor and guide you along the right path. It’s always good to have someone honest and a positive influence in your life. A confidence coach will motivate you to rebuild your self-esteem and empower you to be the best version of yourself.
Building your confidence won’t happen overnight. Nurture yourself first. It takes time and patience. Confidence is about believing in yourself. It makes you feel better and love yourself more, and when you are confident, you are willing to take risks that will lead to improvements in your life.
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